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How Tolerant Are You Really?

It seems as though Muslims experience hate crimes more and more.

Mosques are set on fire, sisters’ hijabs are pulled off, and children are hearing racial taunts in the playground.

If you’re even slightly different from the traditional idea of “normal,”, the world is a pretty difficult place to live in right now.

When we think of “‘tolerance“, we’re taken back to the primary school lessons on anti-bullying and racism.

You can’t help but notice the hypocrisy in those lessons when you feel Islamophobia hitting you from all directions.

But is that the only hypocrisy? Are Muslims tolerant towards each other?

Comments on Muslim YouTube channels show the level of intolerance is excessive amongs Muslims.

How can we expect non-Muslims to treat us better than we treat ourselves?

Why Tolerance Is Important?

Certain red caps and shouts of “Make America great again” demonstrate how dangerous life gets when intolerance becomes accepted and encouraged.

However, is racial intolerance the only thing we should be focusing on?

Religious intolerance is rife, and Muslims are also guilty of it.

Mocking tones, dismissing the “kufs,” shunning an individual because of her hijab style, and dividing into groups based on differences of opinion are what some Muslims do best.

What are the consequences of this continued separation?

Al-Nu’man ibn Bashir reported: The Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) said,

The parable of the believers in their affection, mercy, and compassion for each other is that of a body. When any limb aches, the whole body reacts with sleeplessness and fever.” – (Rated hasan by Bukhari, 5665/Muslim, 2586)

Muslims should pride themselves on unity.

What Does Allah Say?

The Qur’an is filled with verses encouraging us to treat people with honor and respect, even if they are non-Muslim.

“There is no compulsion in religion: true guidance has become distinct from error, so whoever rejects false gods and believes in God has grasped the firmest hand-hold, one that will never break. God is all hearing and all knowing.” (Al-Baqarah 2:256)

There is no compulsion in religion. Meaning, you can’t force someone to become Muslim for the simple fact that it needs to come from the heart.

What many Muslims don’t realize is that we need to apply this to all aspects of religion.

You can’t force someone to be Muslim any more than you can force someone to wear hijab or fast during Ramadan.

All good deeds must be done with the correct intention, but if we are trying to force someone into them, their intention is invalid. So, what’s the point? Advise them, sure, but leave them to accept the advice on their own.

“We have honored the children of Adam and carried them by land and sea; We have provided good sustenance for them and favored them specially above many of those We have created.” (Al-Israa’ 17:70)

The children of Adam are honored. Not the children of Muhammad SAW, or Jesus AS, or Moses AS, but Adam AS. The very first man.

So, every single human being who has ever walked the planet is an honored creation of Allah SWT.

Who are we to disrespect an honored creation?

“…And if they argue with you, say, ‘God is well aware of what you are doing.’ On the Day of Resurrection, God will judge between you regarding your differences.” (Al-Hajj 22:68-69)

God Will Judge

In a society of Insta followers, Facebook likes, and retweets, we constantly feel judged by the outside world.

In turn, we then judge everyone else. Remember, it is not our place to do so.

Take a deep breath, and feel safe in the knowledge that God will handle it. The truth will come out, and the fakers and haters will be exposed all in due time.

Truthfully, we have enough to correct within ourselves before we start attempting to judge and correct everyone else.

So [Prophet] call people to that faith and follow the straight path as you have been commanded. Do not go by what they desire, but say, ‘I believe in whatever Scripture God has sent down. I am commanded to bring justice between you. God is our Lord and your Lord- to us our deeds and to you yours, so let there be no argument between us and you- God will gather us together, and to Him we shall return.’” (Ash-Shura 42:15)

Let There Be No Argument Between Us

Have you ever said that to someone you disagree with? I know I haven’t (except once, when I was clearly losing the argument and needed a way to safely exit!).

How great would it be if we started a disagreement with this phrase: “Let’s not argue.

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How many friends would we still have? How much stress would we have avoided? How much backbiting?

This phrase should be everyone’s constant mantra when interacting with people. Think about how relaxed we’d feel!

Let there be no argument between us.

So, if Allah is asking us to tolerate and respect people who don’t believe in Him, how do you think we should treat people who do?

The Ultimate Inspiration

You don’t have to look far to find a person who respected humanity the way Allah tells us to.

Muhammad (PBUH) was described as a mercy to mankind. Not just Muslims, and not just those who always agreed with him – everyone – all of mankind.

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The Seerah is filled with stories of the Prophet’s mercy towards those around him, but the most surprising one is when a man came into the masjid and started urinating.

The companions reacted the way we probably would; they jumped to their feet in disgust and were ready to beat some manners into the guy.

But Muhammad (peace be upon him) restrained them. Not only did he stop them from hurting the man, but he told them to let him finish!

After giving the man his privacy, the Prophet (peace be upon him) approached him and gently advised him.

This is just one small example of the Prophet’s mercy and tolerance.

It was this quality that made people want to listen to him and be in his company as much as possible.

How Can We Nurture Tolerance?

Like the inner modesty discussed in this article, tolerance isn’t something that can blossom overnight.

However, there are a number of things you can do to develop patience and tolerance within yourself and in those around you.

Read the Seerah – The life of Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) is absolutely filled with stories of patience and tolerance.

You can’t help but feel in awe when you read about the way he treated every single person with dignity and respect, no matter who they were or what they did.

Get to know people – I know it’s difficult with everyone putting on a mask for the outside world, but when you get to know the person inside, you can start to connect with them.

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Knowing a person’s stories and struggles helps you empathize with them and find solidarity with someone who is going through the same things you are.

Volunteer – Whether it’s feeding the homeless or helping your local charity or masjid, volunteering will increase your empathy, you will gain some good deeds, and expose you to a variety of different people.

Have a Muslim support group – Everyone struggles with their faith. When you share these struggles, you can help each other overcome them.

Always miss the Fajr prayer? Maybe someone in your group knows a great app to try.

Feeling panic and dread as Ramadan gets closer? Maybe your group also feels the same way, and you can all rally together and make it a little easier for each other and maybe even add the fun and excitement back.

The world really could be a much nicer place if we all tolerated each other a little more and tore each other down a little less. Make little changes and you will feel the difference.

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This article – part of our Adab Series – is from our archive. It was originally published at an earlier date and is republished because of its importance.

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